I know my son is gay
Dear Dr. G.,
I am beside myself. My year-old son and I got into a bit of a heated argument this weekend and in the midst of it my son said he's gay. I was so shocked that I ignored his comment and ended the argument. I have spoken to my husband about this. My husband says that he has always mind that our son is lgbtq+ and that if he's homosexual, he's gay. My husband seems fine with this.
I feel differently. Could my son just contain said this because he was angry at me and wanted to upset me? Or, maybe he's just going through a phase. Should I have another conversation with him about this? Should I take him to a therapist? There are no other gays in our family as far as I know.
A Distraught Mother
Dear Mother,
First and leading you need to sit down, regroup, and take several immersive breaths. Breathe deeply as I tell you what I ponder. Please try not to be in panic mode. It is highly unlikely that your son told you that he is gay simply to upset you. Gay kids often tell their parents about their sexuality in the middle of a clash because they feel that they have nothing left to fall since
5 Powerful Things You Can Do If Your Kid Tells You, "I'm Gay."
You may not have been expecting to hear the words "I'm gay" from your child. Not only did you never envision it, but your religious beliefs and values also do not align with same-sex relationships. So, what do you do now? How do you respond to your child telling you they're gay?
As a parent, you may own had the inclination that your child may be gay. As a fallout, the news may simply confirm your suspicions, and the conversation may be easy. On the opposite, you may feel mad or shocked. Likewise, you may struggle with the idea and have a natural tendency to lock down the conversation or put it off as merely a phase they're going through. In actual world, regardless of how you feel, the way you respond in the first five minutes could place the tone for your child for years to come.
In this article, we'll discuss the critical moments after your child comes to you and says, "I'm gay." With the help of Dr. Devon Mills is a licensed therapist in Atlanta, GA, we'll highlight five po
As I relayed in When Your Kid Is Gay: What You Need To Know (Sterling, ), I found out that my son was gay from a note with our son's call entwined with another boy's, surrounded by a heart. I accidentally found that note in his room when I was cleaning.
I never questioned him about the heart I found on the sly. How would I have brought it up? Think I was wrong? After all, he had a devotion on a miss in his class.
I had suspected at times that he was queer . He only had girls to his thirteenth birthday party. He preferred gentler sports. He was always concerned about how he looked and followed fashion. Were these stereotypical thoughts from a straight mother? You bet, but it was ingrained through the culture's binary system and ideas about how males were "supposed to" behave.
As it turns out, our son didn't come out until he was 17, was on his own, and brought a boyfriend/girlfriend to visit. Had I asked him if he were gay when he was 13, he probably would possess defensively said "No!" He had to work it out and work through his denial. I'm glad I muzzled myself.
Susan Berland, the mother o
Help! My Son is Gay
by Ricky Chelette, Executive Director
“So should I push my son towards women now?” That’s a question I often get from fathers of young men who are struggling with identical gender attractions. Dads are often devastated by the discovery of their son’s homosexuality. But the retort to their son’s strife is not to force him into the arms of a woman. In fact, such a transfer could actually do more damage than good.
But what should a dad do for his son? In a word: connect! I realize when saying that many dads might think, “I am joint to my son. He’s my son. I’ve been around him since birth. We are fine.” But the fact is that simply being present doesn’t mean you have any kind of emotional, intimate, connection with your son. He is a sensitive guy who needs to be spoken to in a language he can hear and understand. Proclamations of facts do short-lived to move his heart. He wants words dripping with raw emotion and heart-felt passion. He wants to know you, intimately, and feel the weight of your passion for him. In many ways, he wants you to look him straight in hi