Why do i keep thinking im gay

Why am I questioning my sexuality?

What if I’m actually gay? What if I find myself attracted to someone of the matching gender for the first time? Do I fit into a label or am I just going through a phase?

These questions and many others are common for people exploring their sexuality—a normal and often a positive aspect of self-discovery.

After all, sexuality is a complex and multifaceted part of individuality. People may find that their attractions shift or evolve as they secure new experiences, making questioning a natural and carried on part of their lives. “It’s incredibly common to question and explore,” says therapist and NOCD’s Head Clinical Officer Dr. Patrick McGrath.

In other words: While questioning your sexuality can feel like an isolating experience, you’re far from alone. Keep reading to find out why you might be questioning your sexuality—and how you can get help if it’s bringing high levels of distress to your life.

What is sexuality?

Sexuality generally refers to who a person is attracted to and can include a expansive range of sexual orientations.

While heterosexual,

Ask Polly: Why Perform People Always Think I'm Gay?

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Dear Polly,

I finally garnered the courage to note to you about my particular problem, and I hope you can shed some of your wisdom on the situation.

Ever since the 6th grade, people have been asking me if I’m gay. Assist then, the other kids thought any person who was any bit diverse from them was queer , and attached a terrible meaning to the synonyms. I’ll be the first to say that I’ve never been the most “masculine” individual. I value to read and compose, and a lot of what I read is somewhat romantic. My iPod is full of Ellie Goulding, Florence + The Machine and Norah Jones, but utterly lacking in Korn, Metallica or Aerosmith. I love to boil, and have been singing in school choruses since 4th grade. I’ve never liked violent video games or talking about sex. I can kind of see where they got their opinions of me, but it made me enormously self-conscious. When I got to

“Yes, I am a prisoner of sorts, but my prison isn&#;t the residence. It&#;s my have thoughts that secure me up!” ― V.C. Andrews

Hi Tristan

I used to watch a show &#;Dog Whisperer&#;. One of the lessons that stuck with me had to do with dogs that would get fixated on a object or some such. These are the dogs that will bark and bark at something that more often then not was no longer there, the person or squirrel having long moved on. The surprising thing was that often all it took to break the dog out of this abusive articulate was a tap on its neck. The lesson? To break from a obsessive thoughts peer away.

I know easier said then done? perhaps, we operate for that which no work is required&#;

I&#;ve know some people who pluck a elastic band around their wrists to distract themselves when they spot a intrusive idea taking them down the &#;rabbit hole&#;. Often the intrusive thought becomes obsessive because of the &#;what if&#; game we play with ourselves and always imagining the worst followed by more what if&#;s and more imagining&#; If you find yourself playing this game remind you

I love my boyfriend but I think I'm gay

It’s a loaded question and I’m sure your not the only one to ask if allow alone ponder this.

I can comprehend loving someone and not feeling attracted to them, one of my best friends is female, and she’s attractive. And I love her immensely yet I have no sexual attraction to her and the feeling is mutual.

But you have to hold a deep thought process with oneself. In early recovery we often ponder alot of things, our existence, our purpose, our meaningful relationships, I know I did, for some this could be career, family friendships relationships, and include sexuality,

As far as your lack of attraction to your mate, This could be many things, your own sobriety process clouding the idea of intimacy, the fact that the relationship has already cycled and your holding on to shun letting go of some comfort. There’s already a lot going on in your head, and this is just one of those things you may be pondering

I’m gonna give you something that was given to me by an old marriage counselor, mind you that’s a misnomer because we weren’t mar